Lessons for a father - Respect. Reward. Recognition.

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Leadership is very simple. At least theoretically. Practicing it on a daily basis, constantly, is one of the hardest thing we could be doing. 

For us to continue the privilege of leading, it is pertinent that we keep adapting with changing times, teams and context. What might have seemed to be a great idea a few years ago might not, now, be something that works. There are principles of leadership, however, that have withstood the test of time.

I have been very lucky to have been brought up in a family that rewarded good behavior. We received everything from pats on the back to a life changing, hysteria inducing Cricket kit. Punishment was a very real part of our lives but we had to cross the proverbial line by miles for our parents to get there. 

More often than not, the concentration, and in hindsight very intentionally, was on promoting and encouraging good behavior. Good results in school exams, studying for them or finishing our homework in time, learning a new thing, respect for our elders and following of good habits were all rewarded. 

The intention was to look for good behavior. Once the definition of acceptable behavior was set by our earliest leaders, there was no confusion over what was expected from us.

We are trying to do the same with our son. Even at this early age, he is being encouraged to gesture the words "please" and "thank you" to ask for and in response to getting what he wants. His attempt to pronounce the word "Apple" or the color "Puple" (purple) get a small applause or a couple of kisses (from his mother usually). Are there tantrums? Oh! yes. But, very intentionally, we try to concentrate on what is going right.

At work too, the focus is on what is good and right. Actions that are in the best interest of our clients and our organization are met with respect, reward and recognition. It, almost automatically, encourages us to do what is expected of us.

Easy explanation of a great leadership principle. Changing our mindset to make this work is a hard task but one that would bear great results!

Do you lead by the principle of the 3 R's? What has been your experience?