Lessons for a father - Do Not Forget. Do Move On.

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Tough week this. Physically and emotionally, it took a lot to get through. It will be sometime before my professional team can get through the toll that last week has taken on us.

Having said that, I do realize, and appreciate, that I work with some very strong people. Their mental strength is par none and if I could choose a team of people to work with, I would not choose anyone else.

No matter what we do, we all deal with adversity. Sometimes, unfortunately, the challenge we face in our fight against adversity is just a bit too much to deal with immediately. It takes time and a lot of effort. Life, however, goes on even while we deal with our misfortune.

So what do we do at times like these? We compartmentalize. We push the thought aside and keep moving forward. Over time, we deal with the repercussions of the event. With time, we learn to accept loss and teach ourselves ways of not getting completely and solely engulfed by the event(s) that transpired. 

Compartmentalization does not make us cold, it makes us human. The idea of carrying, but putting aside, grief or anger for more than a moment, with the intention of forward movement, is what makes us strong. We must realize, however, that the negative impact of the event must be dealt with over time to stop a complete breakdown from occurring.

Adversity meets various reactions from us. We must stop whatever we are doing sometimes. At other times, we need to surround ourselves with our professional or familial teams. Some events might force us to ponder alone. Howsoever we might react, the reaction cannot be deemed wrong. It is how we deal with what life sends our way. Our reaction to situations makes us, us.

Lesson for this father this week; forget or not, cry or not, miss or not, talk about it or not, never allow adversity to take over your being and stop you from moving on.